Stay-at-home moms have one of the best jobs in the world, and also one of the most difficult. While the reward of watching your kids grow up is great, the job also comes with isolation, endless frustration, and zero days off. This article is for those who are trying to be more confident.

It’s easy for SAHMs to get stuck in a rut and for sadness and depression to soar. A 2012 study interviewed 60,000 women of all ages across the U.S. and found that SAHMs reported higher feelings of daily sadness, depression, and worry than working moms and working women without children.

It’s upsetting to learn that so many SAHMs are suffering from depression and low self-esteem. Mothers should be empowered, not distraught, so that they can share their positivity and strength with their family.

If you’ve been feeling a little down and out lately, it might be time to make a few changes to your daily habits. Try taking on a few of these confidence secrets and watch as you grow more empowered and happy each day!

  1. Start with Self-Affirmations

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Being a SAHM can be a thankless job. The expectations are astronomical and there are very few awards for getting the job done right.

Keep yourself motivated by instituting daily affirmations that remind you how fantastic you really are. Yes, these include reminding yourself that you’re a good parent, but don’t forget to also compliment yourself for features outside of your familial identity.

Put up reminders around the house that will make you smile every time you see them, such as an uplifting message next to the mirror, a slip with your favorite inspiring quote in your wallet, or a sweet note from your hubby on the fridge.

  1. Remember to Pamper and Pretty

When you spend most of your day in the house or driving the car, it’s easy to forget about the little things, such as doing your hair or putting on some mascara.

Although it may seem pointless to get all dolled up when your day will be spent with a 3-year-old, it’s important to take care of your appearance for your own self-confidence.

Make sure you shower and wear clean clothes each day, and take some time to do your hair and put on a little bit of makeup. You don’t have to go all-out ’50s housewife, but you can instantly boost your spirits by getting back a little bit of your everyday routine before motherhood.

  1. Treat Yourself to PTO

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Many jobs offer some amount of vacation or paid time off, and being a mother should be no different.

Allow yourself some guilt-free days off. Get out of the house and away from your family for a few days to spend some much needed “me” time with girlfriends or even by yourself.

No one will think badly of you for taking a short break, and this time could be the breather you need to come back refreshed and excited to see your loved ones. Plus, it offers some perspective. After a few days away you’ll come back more thankful than ever to be with your family again.

  1. Get Moving

It’s a proven fact, we need exercise. Although it tends to be the thing we all tend to procrastinate on, exercise has proven itself time and time again as crucial for the body and mind.

Instead of putting the burden of exercise solely on your shoulders, sign up for weekly classes that will make you feel accountable for getting a workout in. Take the time to find a class that works for you and helps you reach your fitness goals, whether that’s losing weight, toning up, or just having fun.

Also, look for an exercise that will help improve your posture. It’s proven that better posture helps boost confidence and self-esteem, so look for a workout that helps you sit up straight and keep your head up.

  1. Step Out of Your Comfort Zone

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SAHMs can spend so much time inside with the familiar that they forget what it’s like to feel scared or unsure. That feeling of discomfort, however, that comes from doing something out of the ordinary or against the grain can actually help improve your confidence.

If you fail, it will help you learn to bounce back, and if you succeed, you gain the confidence to try even more things. Although stepping outside of your comfort zone seems scary at first, it will actually be a positive experience.

Try taking a walk on the wild side by starting conversations. When you are in social situations, instead of gravitating toward the people you’re most familiar with, try meeting someone new. Take that first step in getting to know someone, and you’ll find that it gets easier to meet new people and take risks.

  1. Catch Up on Your Zzzs

Who would have thought that napping is one of the keys to confidence? Studies have shown that getting enough quality shut eye is vital for improving your day-to-day mood and giving your skin a youthful, well-rested glow.

We know it’s hard to get solid, uninterrupted sleep as a SAHM, but try to make it a priority. Take extra measures to make sure you’re sleeping as much and as well as you can by investing in quality bedding, sleeping in complete darkness, and setting a routine for when you go to bed and wake up.

It might seem impossible now to put those tasks in motion, but it will get easier as the routine gets established with the whole family.

  1. Be Grateful

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Although this may be the last piece of advice you want to hear, it’s true that active, daily thankfulness can help boost your confidence.

Everyone has their ups and downs, but chances are that many of the over 7 billion people in the world have not had the opportunities you’ve had. Take time each day to verbally be thankful for the things and people in your life.

When the going gets tough, remembering everything you’re grateful for will help ease the pain of what you’re dealing with in that moment, and that perspective will make you a stronger, more confident woman even in the face of hardship.


Remember that gaining more confidence and happiness is something very attainable for you. It just takes tapping into these simple secrets to change the odds in your favor. Start with something simple, like sitting up straight and giving yourself daily positive affirmations, and then work up to the bigger life changes.

You’ll be feeling like a new you in no time!